Keep it Classy

When we run into issues at work, school or with family members many times our initial response is to react and become defensive. But that is not the classy way to handle issues. When you handle issues and problems with class you are respected and your response goes a long way.  When we react out of frustration or malice it usually it only makes the situation worse.
As an early adult in my twenties I did not know how to handle disagreements with class, I only knew how to be fierce. I remember a time a co-worker stole my ideas and took credit for my work.  I was emotionally upset and furious.  I immediately confronted her and was throwing papers everywhere while yelling because I was angry. 
When the manager called me to his office he told me I was being tested to see if I deserved a promotion and by my actions he said I did not deserve it. I did not know I was being tested, however it was a lesson of a lifetime.  My boss told me that in this business people will steal your ideas but its how you handle it.  It’s not about fighting fire with fire, it’s about proving yourself when the tables have turned.  I was heartbroken that although I had the talent to promote my reaction stopped me from getting a promotion I deserved. I reacted immaturely instead of using my brains.  I made a decision at that moment that no one will ever be able to take me out of my element again.
Now in my late thirties I have grown and have experienced life on so many avenues. This is how I keep it fierce and classy. A while back there was a long line at the store and on top of that the air conditioner did not work in the store, therefore it was stuffy and customers were irritable.  A woman bumped me and did not say excuse me.  I took a deep breath and let it go.  The lady then took cuts in front of me and after she did it she just glared at me.  The girl in my twenties would have started to yell at her, the woman I am now remained calm.  While the lady was glaring at me, I smiled at her and said “Isn’t it really cold in this store?” Her glare instantly turned into a smile and she started laughing.  She then said “I’m sorry I am really in a rush and have to get this medicine back to my daughter.”  I said to her “I don’t mind at all, I’m not in a hurry, but out of curiosity how come you didn’t just ask me if you could get in front of me.”  She responded “Most people these days aren’t nice so I figure why ask, just do.”  Life is about being empathetic to others while still being fierce and keeping it classy.  By remaining calm and saying to the lady it is cold in here it was an ice breaker that softened a tense moment.  It’s easy to react but remaining calm while the pressure is on you shows strength.
Keeping it classy means to be calm in the face of stupidity.  It also means to rise above.  Don’t react, THINK.
#fiercelyclassy

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